The thing about boundaries is that they create separation.
For those who use Canine Flow, dog ownership is about unity, togetherness and connection. When we strengthen those things the need to enforce or create boundaries is hugely reduced, and often not needed at all.
You see, if you are in a place of fear at any level (feeling apprehension, overwhelmed or generally just fed-up) and so are seeing another creature as doing something ‘to you’ or ‘not listening to you’ the easiest way to shift this is to be different yourself.
By connecting rather than separating.
Maybe you have noticed that some people just seem to be really good at creating boundaries, or what is seen as a boundary, in their relationships, and with their dogs?
Those people are actually really good at connection, at communication.
They may still unknowingly label what they are doing as creating boundaries, but really they are communicating more effectively. they are creating a better connection.
If you feel that your dog needs boundaries there are ways to switch this into connection instead. Initially you need to be considering the whole picture of your relationship with your dog, the environment you are both in. Understanding your own levels of anxiety, fears, time you spend in blame or any time you spend feeling any level of victimless to different aspects of life.
Realisations from those considerations can really assist you to create connection and communication.
For many people, and in true heart to heart connection, the word connection is everything because the word is a subtle indication and strengthening of a feeling.
When you change the word create boundaries into create connection in your mental sentencing from: ‘’I need to create a boundary over this’’ to: ‘’I need to create a connection and communicate over this’’ instantly the body feels different,
Then every cell in your body benefits from this subtle but valuable change.
It also puts your dog back in the frame as a being of love, a being that needs you to understand them rather than judge them or feel any kind of level of blame or victim around them.
As the creature with the biggest heart per body mass of any animal your dog knows instantly when you shift your thinking and feeling to a place of love and unity – to the feeling closer to peace, and they know instantly when you put up the heart wall – the feeling barrier of a Boundary. They feel a separation.
‘’When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change.’’
You don’t have to be an ace animal communicator or even remotely ‘psychic’ to connect with your animal in this way either. When you shift your feelings about what your dog does you will also shift their behaviour.
This work amazes us, and believe me this is way more than simply ignoring or doing nothing – being the Change is a big step! It’s a huge thing to learn how to do. No matter how big or ‘bad’ the story you would tell about your dogs behaviours and how you need to teach them different, we have witnessed over and over again that separation simply creates more separation.
Ultimately you are worth it. You are not simply changing how you feel and think about your dog’s behaviours for your dog, you are doing it for you.
You deserve to feel peace too.
You can find out more about Canine Flow techniques, how we use them to transform behaviours and how that in turn creates a peaceful, happy life for people just like you… check out our courses, retreats and other offerings – we truly want to connect and share this way of being with dogs, with You.